Treat yourself and release some tension
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Let’s not be coy here. Almost everybody masturbates. And that includes most women (92% according to recent studies). I was once told, “saying you’ve never masturbated before is just admitting to lying.” Now, why is there only a stigma around female masturbation? The easy and short answer is (as it often is) sexism.
According to much of society, women are never allowed to be sexual beings unless men are involved. Heaven forbid you might need to release some tension! Women are taught to feel such shame about their own bodies that even speaking about the topic is taboo. If you’re embarrassed about rubbing one out, let us be the first to say, it’s normal, you’re normal, and your body is great.
Aside from masturbation being totally normal, relaxing and enjoyable, it also has health benefits! Flicking the bean can help with headaches or migraines, period cramps, stress and it releases endorphins.
Also, knowing your own body will help you tell your partners what you want. If you know what you’re doing, it’s much easier to explain it to someone else. Your next hook-up could be seemingly clueless, so if you’re familiar with your body, you can show them the ropes.
Hopefully polishing the pearl will help cheer you up, make you more comfortable with your body, and help you explain what you want out to your next hook-up.
Personal vibrators can be the perfect way to release some stress and get to know your body while having a bit of fun. A new addition to my collection, the Ina Wave, is an amazing option and I highly recommend it. With two motors and four control buttons, this toy has multiple vibration and variation choices. As well, the Ina Wave is waterproof so it can be used in the shower if that tickles your fancy. And it even has a super fun pulsation setting!
Maybe watch an episode of Broad City (potentially season 2 episode 8), listen to Love Myself by Hailee Steinfeld (she’s admitted to it being a pro-masturbation banger), and try not to worry so much. Sometimes, you need to ignore the unfair and ridiculous messages that are broadcasted to women and just do you. So if you’re in the mood, light some candles, put on some sexy music or whatever your routine is and make sure to enjoy yourself.